attachments as idolatry

“We think of our attachments as anchors of well-being. We feel good when we are surrounded by what seem like innocent indulgences and think they secure a state of pleasure that would not be ours without them. In reality, however, they sabotage our happiness and are hazardous to both our spiritual health and our psychological health.

“Attachments undermine our freedom, making our contentment and joy dependent on their presence. …

“Spiritually, attachments serve as idols: we invest in objects and experiences that should be invested only in God. Anything that is grasped is afforded value beyond actual worth, value that is ultimately stolen from God.

“Ultimately, attachments are ways of coping with the feelings of vulnerability, shame and inadequacy that lie at the core of our false ways of being.”

Benner, David G. The Gift of Being Yourself. Expanded ed. (Downers Grove, Ill: IVP Books, 2015), page 75.

asking for stuff in prayer

“Far from ruining the purity of solitary prayer, petition guards and preserves that purity. The solitary, more than anyone else, is always aware of his poverty and of his needs before God. Since he depends directly on God for everything material and spiritual, he has to ask for everything. His prayer is an expression of his poverty. Petition, for him, can hardly become a mere formality, a concession to human custom, as if he did not need God in everything.”

Merton, Thomas. Thoughts in Solitude. (NY: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1958), page 105.

at play with God

“Play, for [psychotherapist] Winnicott, is a medium for the expression and elaboration of the true self–it is progressive, creative and developmental. Play can be the ‘work’ of psychotherapy. I believe it is also applicable to the ‘work’ of growing in interiority that is the task of contemplative monastics. We are at play with God when we are about the work of transformation. When we meditate or pray, for example, we are entering an area of potential space, transitional space. In this generative space created between God and us, we encounter God and God encounters us. We are no longer completely inside or outside ourselves, but in this space co-created by God and ourselves, a place to play, where we can be our truest self and pray.

“This potential space is not concrete, so it would be a misapplication to apply it to the cell, for example. We may indeed be able to co-create this space in our cell, and it may be a place of profound prayer. But this ground of encounter with God cannot be limited to a concrete place. It is, in fact, something that is part of our heart, here defined from a biblical and early Christian perspective. We take our heart with us wherever we go. In many ways the process of growing in interiority can be considered ‘heartwork’ that takes place i[n] solitude and in community. The potentiality of potential space means it can be co-created anywhere.”

Healey, Bede. “Psychological Investigations and Implications for Living Together Alone.” in Belisle, Peter-Damian, editor. The Privilege of Love: Camaldolese Benedictine Spirituality. (Collegeville, Minn.: Liturgical Press, 2002), page 126.

ascetic silence

“Exterior silence is an ascetic exercise of self-mastery in the use of speech. …

“Asceticism is a means that helps us to remove from our life anything that weighs it down, in other words, whatever hampers our spiritual life and, therefore, is an obstacle to prayer. Yes, it is indeed in prayer that God communicates his Life to us and manifests his presence in our soul by irrigating it with the streams of his trinitarian love. And prayer is essentially silence. Chattering, the tendency to externalize all the treasures of the soul by expressing them, is supremely harmful to the spiritual life. Carried away toward the exterior by his need to say everything, the chatterer cannot help being far from God, superficial, and incapable of any profound activity.”

Sarah, Robert Cardinal with Nicolas Diat. The Power of Silence Against the Dictatorship of Noise. With an Afterword by Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI. Translated by Michael J. Miller. (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2017), pages 141-142.

are you a contemplative? or not?

“If your contemplation is a complete blank or a mere spiritual chaos, without any love or desire of God, then be persuaded that you are not a contemplative. But, on the other hand, remember that in the beginning of contemplation as well as in times of great trial, the desire and awareness of God are something so deep, so mute, and so tenuous that it is hard to realize their presence at all. However, a glance is sufficient to tell you that they are there.”

Merton, Thomas. The Inner Experience: Notes on Contemplation. Edited and with an Introduction by William H. Shannon. (NY: HarperOne, 2003), page 102. [originally written in 1959]

holy anticipation

“Silence and solitude are a small anticipation of eternity, when we will be in God’s presence permanently, irradiated by him, the great Silent One, because he is the great lover.”

Sarah, Robert Cardinal with Nicolas Diat. The Power of Silence Against the Dictatorship of Noise. With an Afterword by Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI. Translated by Michael J. Miller. (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2017), page 70.

answered prayer

“The solitary, being a man of prayer, will come to know God by knowing that his prayer is always answered. From there, he can go on, if God wills, to contemplation.” 

Merton, Thomas. Thoughts in Solitude. (NY: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1958), page 105.

angels protecting us

“If God looks upon you, all angels, saints, and all creatures will fix their eyes upon you. And if you remain in that faith, all of them will uphold you with their hands. And when your soul leaves your body, they will be on hand to receive it, and you cannot perish.”

Luther, Martin. “A Sermon on Preparing to Die” (1519) Luther’s Works Vol. 42. (Philadelphia: Fortress Press, 1969), page 112.

anchorite, anchoress … what were they?


“Anchorite, anchoress, a person dedicated to a life of strict solitude and penance. Because they are not allowed to leave their dwellings, anchorites often have their cells attached to the church sanctuary so they may receive the Eucharist through a window; their meals are passed through a different window. In addition to a life of prescribed prayer and fasting, these solitaries study, write books, sew clothing for the poor, and offer spiritual advice to visitors through a veiled window. Prophetic witness and compassion characterize this canonical form of consecrated life.”

McBrien, Richard P., ed. The HarperCollins Encyclopedia of Catholicism. “Anchorite, Anchoress.” (San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1995) page 44.